Drill sergeant mom
Sometimes it's easy to fall into the mode of drill sergeant mom. Much of our day is spent giving directions, following up to see that tasks are accomplished and dealing with situations when things are not completed. If we're not careful, we can find ourselves barking orders rather than training hearts. Have you ever caught a glimpse of yourself in the mirror when you're in that mode? Oooh, not pretty!
While what we're saying must be said, our delivery is equally as important. Tone and facial expression often convey more than the words themselves. Obviously I have to tell my kids to get out of bed (especially those teens!), finish their math, feed the dog, etc. but how I say it speaks volumes. I find sergeant mom appears most often when I'm focused on other things and rushing through my interactions with my kids. I am more concerned at that moment with the end result (that they do what I'm telling them) than I am about their hearts.
I have a sign over my sink that says "Speak kind words and you'll hear kind echoes." If you're struggling today with being in drill sergeant mode, let me encourage you to give this a try. When you give instructions to your kids today STOP what you're doing, LOOK into their eyes, LOWER your voice and SMILE while you speak to them. Not only will their attitudes improve, they will more than likely accomplish what you're asking of them with less follow up (aka. nagging) on your part and you'll feel better too. It's a win-win!
Enjoy your kids and make it a great day Mom!